If your friend buys rounds at the bar and everyone laughs and says,
“What a great guy!”
…but then he goes home and beats his wife –
he’s not a good man.
He’s an abuser.
Period.
Generosity in public doesn’t erase cruelty in private.
Kindness to some people doesn’t cancel out harm to others.
Buying drinks doesn’t balance the scales against broken bones or broken trust.
And yet people fall for this illusion every day.
They confuse charm for character.
They confuse politeness for integrity.
They confuse “he never hurt me” for “he’s good.”
🪞 A Harsh Truth
When you say “Well, they never harmed me” –
what you are really saying is “I am fine with them harming someone else, as long as it wasn’t me.”
That’s not neutrality. That’s complicity.
Silence shelters the abuser.
Applause encourages them.
Indifference lets them keep choosing victims.
⚖️ The Real Measure of Goodness
A good person does not weaponize power against the vulnerable.
A good person does not inflict pain because they think no one will stop them.
A good person does not pick their victims based on who is easiest to isolate.
The real measure of goodness is how someone treats the person they believe they can harm without consequence.
There’s no moral math where kindness to some cancels cruelty to others.
đźš« Stop Confusing Harmlessness With Goodness
So stop pretending.
- The board member who smiles at you but destroys someone else’s life is not “nice.”
- The neighbor who waves while spreading lies is not “harmless.”
- The “friend” who treats you kindly while tormenting someone else is not “good.”
They harmed me. They harmed my family.
Their “public charm” is a mask for something rotten underneath – and that fact alone disqualifies them from sainthood.
🛡️ I Will Hold Them Accountable
I will fight to hold them accountable – to expose them, to strip away the cover of civility, to use every lawful, public, and moral tool I have to make sure their actions don’t go unnoticed or unpunished.
And yes: I will fight to put them behind bars for what they did to me and my family – figuratively speaking, of course.
I will use courts, public pressure, facts, and the rule of law to make sure their conduct costs them everything it should – reputation, positions of power, and the impunity they relied on.
Accountability isn’t vengeance. It’s protection for the next person.
And if you think politeness to your face makes them good, then you are part of the problem.
🔥 Just because the punch didn’t land on you doesn’t mean the punch wasn’t thrown.
If you want to stand with decency, stand with the people they targeted – not the ones clapping at the bar.
