If you let abusers get away with what theyâve done, they will do it again.
And again.
And again.
This isnât pessimism. Itâs pattern recognition.
Abuse survives on one thing only: lack of consequences.
When harm is minimized, reframed, or quietly buried in the name of âmoving on,â the message is crystal clear:
You can do this. Nothing will happen.
Thatâs how abuse becomes normalized.
đ Abuse Is Not a âOne-Time Incidentâ
Abusers donât wake up one day and suddenly become abusive – and they donât stop because time passes.
They test boundaries.
They escalate when they succeed.
They learn exactly how far they can go by watching what others tolerate.
Silence isnât peace.
Silence is permission.
𧹠âLet It Goâ Is Not Neutral Advice
When people say:
âItâs in the past.â
âBe the bigger person.â
âWhy canât you just move on?â
What theyâre really saying is:
Your discomfort matters less than our convenience.
That advice protects abusers, not victims.
It preserves institutions, reputations, and false harmony – at the cost of human beings.
đŻ The Next Target Is Rarely the Same Person
Abusers donât need the same victim twice.
They move on to:
- someone quieter,
- someone more isolated,
- someone with less credibility,
- someone who wonât fight back.
Every time abuse is ignored, the circle widens.
âď¸ Accountability Is Not Revenge
Calling out abuse is not hostility.
Documenting it is not obsession.
Refusing to stay silent is not âbeing difficult.â
Accountability is how cycles end.
And hereâs the part that makes people uncomfortable:
Those who are threatened by accountability usually benefit from the system that avoids it.
đĽ This Is Why I Wonât Be Quiet
Not because I enjoy conflict.
Not because I want attention.
Not because I canât âlet things go.â
But because I understand what happens when abuse is excused.
It doesnât disappear.
It finds its next victim.
And I refuse to help that happen.
